I know, I know, it's been a while. However, something happened that has forced me to post here. Our DJ canceled on us Monday.
Here's the basic rundown. We called him in March to set something up. He said that it was early and we should wait. He called in July, and we couldn't meet at that time. I called him 2 weeks ago, and we set up a meeting for Monday at 7 PM. When we first set the day up, he asked if I had checked anyone else out. I said I had, but we wanted him. Mind you, he already did her sister's wedding, so we knew him, but we wanted to see waht was out there. He asks me why I looked elsewhere, and I told him that you never go into something like this without looking around. Even if you know what you want and who you want, looking elsewhere might give you ideas.
Monday at about 6:20 he calls to say that he can't make it because of traffic and he'll reschedule. I said it was ok, and he then started to ask about prices that others had given to us. I gave him the prices, and he said he'd call back once he was in the house so we could reschedule.
30 minutes goes by, and he calls. He says to me "Listen, I'm not going to be able to do your wedding." I asked for a reason, and he said he didn't have one. So rather than get upset, I let it go. Dee calls him back to find out a reason, and he can't give her one either. She starts calling her family to let them know what happened.
Apparently, he must have gotten bitched out, because No-balls John called us back to apologize for not giving us a reason. He tells Dee that he had some "personal uneasiness" about working with us when he heard that we had looked at other people. Personal Uneasiness? What the hell is that all about? This insecure jackass is upset that we looked around, so he would feel uncomfortable working at our party.
He calls himself "Big-time John", but from what I can see, the name comes from a "penile Napoleonic" complex.
Guys, I have something nagging me, and this has to be a woman thing. If you had to go to the bathroom, would you start shopping in a jewelry store? Apparently, the bathroom is irrelevant when surrounded by bling. Gets better. She's looking in the engagement ring section. When I ask why, she says, "I'm just looking". Then, the next answer for her jewelry shopping expedition was "gifts". Who the hell is she buying engagement rings for as gifts? When we finally started looking at wedding bands, which we will eventually need, it took five minutes, we got an idea and left.
Maybe its the difference in the way men and women shop, but why the hell do you girls waste time with shopping when you have plans? Not only that, but why shop for stuff you don't need? Let me be frank, I hate shopping in Kings Plaza. It is a hellhole that gets worse each year. If I have to shop there, its get in and get out. Dragging me around in that place will inevitably lead to a fight, as I can't stand a lot of the customers.
Guys, if your woman wants to shop, do what I do - bring entertainment of some kind, look at the rare eye candy, or tell her to meet you in a nearby store that you can waste some time in.
I know, I know, it's been a long time since I last posted. Not much went on....until now. Finally, nearly 5 months after I proposed, she is getting the bridesmaids together to meet for their dresses. Took them long enough! Some of the guys might be asking, "What should I care about that?" Well, in order for you to get a tux, you need to know what the "color scheme" is. Without that, you and the groomsmen might clash with their dresses, and trust me, you don't want a pissed-off bride and her bridesmaids-in-tow after you.
Saw both families yesterday, was fun. I can't wait for the two sides to meet. At first, it was going to be like a boxing poster, with the two sides looking like they want to kill each other, but not anymore, it now looks like it's going to be nice and quiet, which is a lot better.
Back with another chapter in the diary of a madman(groom). Let me ask you guys something - should the person who pays the bill at a restaurant decide what the tip should be? I think so.
Dee, my best man (Chris), and I went out to eat on Friday at Applebee's. Granted, their service is ok at best normally, Friday is was bad. People who were seated after us were eating before us, it took almost a half hour for the appetizers, things like that. Adding to the frustration were the teenage gangsta-wannabe's who have nothing better to do at age 15 than hang out in front of a restaurant, smoke, and cause people grief. When dinner finally came out, I asked the server if I could please have another soda. He said ok, and disappeared. Two minutes later, nothing. Ten minutes later, nothing. Twenty minutes later, when the guy comes to take my plate, I ask him for more soda. He even asks what kind. At this point, I was thinking I might get more soda. What did I know. He disappears and never comes back. If the waitress had been doing her job and coming around to check if things were ok, I might have been able to get a drink, but no. She finally came around when we stopped her for the check, at which point all we wanted to do was get the hell out of there.
We get the check, and since I was taking Dee out, Chris put his amount in, and I would pay the rest. Everything was ok until it got to the tip. I wanted to give less because the service was horrible. Normally this would not be a problem. Since Dee normally figures out the bills (she's a little better with money), she figured an eight or nine dollar tip was appropriate. I disagreed because of the service. Before I could act, she closes the little book that they give you so you can pay, and gives it to the waitress. Dee then looks at me and says, "It's not like you are going to take it back now, right?" I was livid. Its bad enought that the service was awful, but now Dee is deciding how much I should pay. If part of it were her money, it would be one thing, but I was paying, so I think that I should decide, right? Please email me, and let me know if I was right or not.
If and when you do get engaged, the next day/night, your new fiance will ask you, "When do you want to get married?" My response - later!. You as a man just went through all the trouble of planning the proposal, and figure you have a few days to sit back and catch your breath. Not in her book! The day you propose sets off a ticking clock that counts down to their wedding.
By the time you know what's going on, she's got a semblance of the date and time, as well as the guests. Within one month(one week if she has an older sister), you will have a general idea of the guest list, location, and other items. Again, not always a bad thing, but I do believe Einstein never thought about what happens when wedding planning when working on theories of time & space. If you want to email your thoughts, send them to Hammrsigpi@hotmail.com.
Ok, part two, this is more for the guys than anything else. Today, she started a webpage for the wedding. In this day and age, I guess it makes sense, but, she started posting things about us without asking me for input. Ladies, I'm not controlling, just asking for courtesy and equality in the relationship. I don't give a damn about the color of the tablecloth, but if the world is going to see part of my life, I might appreciate a heads up.
For those of you who are engaged or just got engaged, congrats. Guys in this group, how many of you have fiance's who said they want you to take dance lessons? That's what I thought. Don't do it! Let me ask you something, how many of you plan on ballroom dancing after your wedding? For those two guys who raised their hands, ignore this section. For the rest, picture this: you have a family, and you come home from work, you find out that your wife hasn't made dinner because she was with the kids. Is dancing going to feed you? Hell no. You could have spent 20-30 minutes whipping something up for the family, and showing your wife how much you love her and the kids, but no, you took dance lessons! All so that you supposedly wouldn't look like an ass in front of family and friends. Believe me, after 2 hours of a free bar, noone is going to care as long as you don't fall. If you can already cook, or if you can afford (both time and money) to take lessons out the yin-yang, go to town, have fun.
Some of you might be saying, I'm just going to show up at the wedding, be relatively sober, and I don't care about what goes into it. Don't make that mistake. I'm not saying you should care about the doily color, but take an interest in your wedding. Otherwise, you could be asking for trouble. It may not appear to be manly to get involved in the plannign of your wedding, but it's a hell of a lot better than living with pink place settings because she did all of the gift registry. The only things I plan on getting involved in are:
1) Food at the wedding.
2) Music at the wedding.
3) Guest list.
Yes men - I said the registry. Why you ask? Not just for the pink place settings (nice to see someone read what I typed before), but because it can be fun. I like to cook occasionally, and it would be nice to pick out some of the tools I will be using. I don't get involved in all of it, just in the areas that I care about, and guys, do the same. Getting involved in everything will only lead to fights between you, her, and her mother, and it's over nothing. Spare yourself the headaches and hair loss, and pick your battles.